Confidence And How To Achieve It

Confidence. Scary word, if you ask me. Is it overrated? How do you achieve it?

Let's talk about that.

Most people say it's hard, it's complicated, "I had a rough childhood". You know, I get it.
It's not easy standing up to that bully, talking in front of the whole class about global warming(it's real btw) or even talking to that girl you like so much.

Confidence does not come from within, no one was born with it, we all have been taught either by someone we know or we taught ourselves. So with that comes good confidence, and bad confidence.


Don't get me wrong, the confidence in on itself isn't bad, but the person it. When a 26 years old jock that hasn't been punched in the mouth in his life picks on a weaker individual, then he used that confidence for bad, therfore it becomes bad confidence.

But let's be honest for a second here, that doesn't really count as confidence does it? Maybe it's more got to do with the fact that some people are dicks, just maybe...

Now what I'm trying to get at here is that you have to teach yourself that good confidence, but before that you have to dicipline yourself into becoming the better you. 

It isn't easy gaining confidence out of the blue of course, it takes time, effort and a lot of tries. Just like anything else in life. You have to try, commit yourself to it. 

You have to keep remembering who you really are, what you are good at, and remember that whatever anybody think of you, that doesn't really matter. And that's what we are afraid of, what your dad, brother, or that loser classmate is going to think of you. But what if you just didn't give a shit?And you know what you shouldn't give a shit? Because EVERYBODY has fault, no matter who it is, they have done something in their life that they're not proud of, so who are they to judge you? People are looking for admiration, appreciation, and acceptance, and they think they can achieve by knocking down someone else. 

Then again, that ain't easy. Sometimes hate gets to you, but when you really achieve that free, winner mindset, then life becomes really freakin good. When you really don't care about people's opinions, that's when you become confident in your own self and start appreciating life more. As I said before, it takes time and a lot of tries.

So before I take off to the next subject, 

I really want all of you to do a couple of things:

1. Think about at least one thing you like about yourself. If you can't fine anything, START looking for it.

2. Do one thing that reallyyy scares you, get out of that comfort zone, start with something small like taking a new route to school or trying new food you haven't had before.

3. Try to love yourself for who you really are(pretty cheesy I know), because you are going to be stuck with that person for the rest of your life, and you better make it a fun ride.

PS: I recommend you all to read this book that has really helped me in a lot of ways, its subtle, but an amazing read

https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, By Mark Manson.